Uneasy Footing

Years after joining a very conservative Lutheran Church, which in itself was sort of an act of defiance, I'm still struggling to find my place there and sitting with uncomfortable conflicting thoughts. This is where I hope to put some of those thoughts, to untangle them and figure them out. It is not a place where I will try to do good writing or be persuasive or anything of the sort. It will be a moderately embarrassing journey for me, I'm sure. 

That said...

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